Beating premature ejaculation is the first step to becoming an awesome lover.
If you can’t last for more than a few minutes or even seconds in bed then you may struggle to give your woman the ride of her life.
So this makes stopping premature ejaculation a fundamentally crucial step to become great in bed…
…to becoming the kind of guys that your woman yearns and begs for.
So how do we stop premature ejaculation?
Well there isn’t one single thing you can do to completely stop premature ejaculation, but I will give you one piece of the puzzle right now.
Let’s start with why orgasms happen…
Because if we understand the why, then we can take more control over its cause and therefore last longer in bed.
So most of the time a orgasms happen as a release of tension.
(Note: orgasms can happen for other reasons if you’re super advanced with tantra and all that, but for now let’s stick to the basics)
Tension And Orgasms
You probably notice that as a guy, just before you orgasm you tense up a bit…
Maybe you tense your legs, your chest, your face, your bum.
Whatever it is, typically it will involve the tensing of some muscles.
When you finally orgasm you’ll also notice a sudden relaxation of those muscles.
This is the orgasm process.
An orgasm is a release of tension.
Without tension achieving orgasm can be very difficult.
So how does this help us stop premature ejaculation?
Well, orgasms are an “effect”.
A “cause” will occur which then makes the orgasm happen.
Tension is such a “cause”.
If you can change the “cause”, then you can change the “effect”.
So if you reduce your tension then you reduce your chance of orgasm.
It’s a simple formula.
So what you need to do now is start making some changes to your approach to sex so you have less tension.
Reducing Sexual Tension
Let me just say that sexual tension is not always a bad thing.
It can be pretty cool and fun to experience.
It’s also a great thing to use on your partner to drive them crazy for you.
But what I’m talking about reducing here is the physical tension that you’re carrying in your body when you’re having sex.
If you want to last longer in bed, then one way to do it is to reduce the overall tension in your body at the time.
Because like I said earlier, if you reduce your tension then you reduce your chance of premature ejaculation.
Ways To Reduce Physical Tension During Sex
There are a ton of different things you can do to reduce your physical tension during sex.
Some are quick fix, some are things you need to work on.
I won’t go into all of them here, you can check out my “last longer in bed” guide, Ejaculation Guru, if you want to learn them all.
But here’s one method you can take away and use today.
I call it…
Conscious Relaxation
Becoming less stressed doesn’t have to involve going away to some Tibetan monk retreat or becoming a master Yoga instructor.
All it takes is for you to become conscious of your the tension in your muscles.
When you’re having sex, it’s likely you’ll get swept up in the moment…
Which is great, because you want to enjoy sex…
But while you’re having sex take a moment to become conscious again of what you’re doing.
Now notice all the tension in your muscles…
You may notice your legs or bum are tensed.
Or maybe you’re clutching something tight with your hand(s).
Now consciously relax those muscles.
Just focus on allowing those muscles to relax.
And as you do exhale a deep breath slowly.
So you should be relaxing your muscles and breathing out at the same time.
And focus on how the muscles that were tense are now becoming more relaxed.
Repeat the deep breaths several times.
You don’t have to stop sex or foreplay while you do this.
Just repeat the above process
The Results
The overall effect of this conscious relaxation is that your body is less tense.
If your body is less tense then like I said earlier, you’re less likely to orgasm quickly.
And therefore you can help yourself stop premature ejaculation.
Pretty cool, huh?
Now, this is my first real post on this blog, so it’s been a little experimental and rough around the edges.
I hope you’ve found what I’ve shared useful.
Oh, and it would be great if you could drop me a comment below on what your thoughts are on this article, premature ejaculation, tension and relaxation or anything else (you can keep it anonymous if you want)
